No Empty Chairs: "Good Things Utah"

Monday, September 15, 2008

"Good Things Utah"

Each morning after Tyler and Emily would leave for school. Wyatt, Hayley and I and sometimes Derek would go on a walk. When we got home Wyatt was usually hungry so I would fed him while watching Good Things Utah. They have a segment on it where they show pictures of those that are celebrating their first birthday. I would tell Wyatt each time it would come up that I was going to submit his picture so he could be on TV for his birthday. The realization came to me a few months ago that he wouldn't be here so I could submit that photo. Well, I thought it's still his birthday I will write an e-mail to them and let them know my story and they can decide if they want to put Wyatt's picture on there or not. I just heard back from them and they are going to air his picture on Monday September 22nd since the 21st is on a Sunday. It touched my heart that they would be willing to do this even though he isn't physically here. Maybe this is a weird thing I'm doing but it feels good inside to know that he isn't forgotten. Thanks "Good Things Utah" for remember Wyatt on his birthday.

5 comments:

Jen said...: Oh I love it! I'm so glad they're going to help us remember sweet Wyatt!
Jen; September 15, 2008 at 10:19 PM
janalee said...: What a sweet way to remember your son :). I'm so glad you thought to send his picture in, and that the show decided to air it.; September 15, 2008 at 10:58 PM
Michelle Arnett said...: This doesn't sound weird at all! It is a great idea to keep his memory alive! He's not here physically but he is still alive. . we just can't see him. I am so happy, what great happy news.; September 15, 2008 at 11:40 PM
Marc and Megan said...: What a great way to remember him! I'm glad you decided to contact them... and even happier that they have decided to show his picture! How wonderful!

And, I've been looking forward to my day in the temple and releasing his balloons this weekend, on his behalf. It means so much to me to be apart of the celebration of his life. Thank you for allowing me this blessing! :); September 15, 2008 at 11:43 PM
carolyn q said...: I will set my dvr to record, since I will be at work so I can watch it when I get home.
I think it's a great idea and so you should be proud of the courage you had to ask.
Heart Hugs,
Carolyn Quigley
Angel Hope's mommy; September 21, 2008 at 12:17 AM

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Wyatt

Wyatt had a little cold the weekend before he passed away. We took him into the Dr's thinking he might have RSV at the worst. The Dr. admitted him to the hospital and they took a chest x-ray. That's when we found out he had an enlarged heart caused by a virus. There was no indication before this that he had any problems. He was healthy and happy. He needed to be life flighted to Primary Children's Hospital. When they put the breathing tube in, Wyatt went into cardiac arrest. The CPR caused brain damage. He never woke up after that. They were able to stabalize him enough to make it to primary childrens. We had to take him off life support 3 days later. He left this earth peacefully in the arms of his parents. We know we will have our little boy again someday. What a glorious day that will be!

Michelle's list(Angel James' mom)

When Someone you Love is Bereaved

I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.

1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.

2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.

3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.

4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.

5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."

6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.

7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.

8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, abscent minded & spacey grief can make you.

9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.

10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.

11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.

12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.

13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.

14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.

15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.

Why?

Joseph Smith said:
"I have meditated upon the subject, and asked the question, why is it that infants, innocent children, are taken away from us, especially those that seem to be the most intelligent and interesting. the strongest reasons that present themselves to my mind are these.....The Lord takes many away, even in infancy that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again....The only difference between the old and the young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory then the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Not withstanding all this glory we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope."

Monday, September 15, 2008

"Good Things Utah"

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