No Empty Chairs: "Good Things Utah"

Monday, September 22, 2008

"Good Things Utah"

Good Things Utah aired Wyatt's picture for his birthday this morning. But more amazing they told his story and sent their love to me. Words can't describe how much that meant to me. I started crying instantly when I saw his sweet little face but then to have them talk about him made it even more special. Thank you Good Things Utah--that was above and beyond anything I had imagined. Thank you for remembering our little boy.

7 comments:

SlonikerScoop said...: Hi Andrea and Family,
I don't know you but have been looking at your blog for the past few weeks. I can't remember exactly how I found you - I think a link from another blog. Anyways, I recorded GTU today (I have never watched the show before) just to see Wyatt. Angie could hardly make it through the segment, and neither could I. I cannot tell you how many tears I have shed for you and praying for you to have the strength you need. I have a 7 month old and I cannot imagine what you are going through. I even thought about you as I went to bed last night and I was hoping that on his birthday you were able to feel comfort. I have been inspired by you and will continue to pray for you and your family. God Bless You all.; September 22, 2008 at 12:53 PM
Lisa said...: What a sweet tribute to little Wyatt. I'm glad you got to see just a little of the many people that love you and your family this weekend. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with all of us!; September 22, 2008 at 1:42 PM
Jill said...: Wow! How neat Andrea! There are so many people who are aware of you. More than you know...so many people look at your blog and ask me about you. Wyatt is definitely remembered. Love you!; September 22, 2008 at 2:41 PM
JJ said...: Heavenly Father is aware of you and is giving you these tender mercies to let you know of His great love for you and of Wyatt's love for you. You are remarkable. Love you!; September 22, 2008 at 3:55 PM
Gedge's said...: Andrea,
I am so sorry for this past first birthday without your little one. GTU was awesome and how amazing that they were able to honor him. I pray for you and hope that you are holding up.
Love
julie; September 22, 2008 at 4:51 PM
Vance in the Knight! said...: Andrea,

What an excelent past few posts and what an excelent way to remember wyatt. i thought our little balloon release was cool and then i saw your neighborhood's!! Such amazing pictures of your amazing family. Today in school, i really want to check your blog for info about what you did for wyatt's birthday. i of course got online in my computer class and started crying, once again, in school. So everybody saw me crying and i got yelled at by the teacher!! it was all worth it though!! i was uplifted for the rest of the day by your strenght and the love that people have for you. but don't forget about all the love coming from the north!! good things utah always comes on our schools tv after they do announcements and i was so excited because they were about to do the birthdays so i thought i would be able to see it. but of course the teacher was to stuborn so i had to wait till i got home. such a great day at school cause all i thought about was wyatt. I'm so grateful for wyatt and the joy he has brought so many people, many of whom didn't know him. i love you and your family and wish that i could have been there with you guys this weekend. i loved all those sweet pictures and all the balloons that "wyatt gets to play with."(addy) hope you have a great day and hopefully ill see you soon.; September 22, 2008 at 6:58 PM
carolyn q said...: Andrea,
I just got home since I have been away for the past couple of days. The first thing I did was go to my DVR and watch the Good Day Utah segment. My 7 year old son came up and said, "Look there's Wyatt". . .knowing he has only ever seen pictures of him. I had tears running down my face and he came over and gave me a hug.
Thank you for allowing us to be part of the balloon release, though I had to do it on Sunday. We were up at Hope's grave, and so I will send you a picture :0); September 23, 2008 at 7:14 PM

Wyatt

Wyatt had a little cold the weekend before he passed away. We took him into the Dr's thinking he might have RSV at the worst. The Dr. admitted him to the hospital and they took a chest x-ray. That's when we found out he had an enlarged heart caused by a virus. There was no indication before this that he had any problems. He was healthy and happy. He needed to be life flighted to Primary Children's Hospital. When they put the breathing tube in, Wyatt went into cardiac arrest. The CPR caused brain damage. He never woke up after that. They were able to stabalize him enough to make it to primary childrens. We had to take him off life support 3 days later. He left this earth peacefully in the arms of his parents. We know we will have our little boy again someday. What a glorious day that will be!

"Parents who have surrendered the sweetest and smallest flowers from the family's garden need to remember our Heavenly Father. He has promised a special reward to those who now suffer in silence, who spend long days and longer nights through their trying times of bereavement. Our Creator has promised glory. He said, "For after much tribulation come the blessings. Wherefore the day cometh that ye shall be crowned with much glory; the hour is not yet, but nigh at hand." (D&C 58:4) That promised glory includes the blessing of reunion with each child who has left the family circle to help surviving members of the family to draw nearer to God. Those children still live and are a heritage to the Lord."
Russell M. Nelson

President John Taylor once said: "that the best explanation he could offer why so many little children among the Saints were called away, notwithstanding the great faith and power of the priesthood exercised to keep them here, was that they were bright and noble spirits who held important positions in the kingdom of God in the spirit world, from which they could not long be spared., They were given brief furloughs, long enough to come to earth, take upon themselves bodies of flesh and bone that they might be prepared for a resurrection to a kingdom of glory; and after a short experience in mortality were called back to resume important labors in a higher sphere."

Joseph F. Smith said:
"Joseph Smith taught the doctrine that the infant child that was laid away in death would come up in the resurrection as a child; and pointing to the mother of a lifeless child, he said to her: ' You will have the joy, the pleasure, and satisfaction of nurturing this child, after its resurrection, until it reaches the full stature of its spirit.' There is restitution, there is growth, there is development, after the resurrection from death. I love this truth. It speaks volume of happiness, of joy and gratitude to my soul. Thank the Lord he has revealed these principles to us."

Michelle's list(Angel James' mom)

When Someone you Love is Bereaved

I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.

1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.

2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.

3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.

4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.

5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."

6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.

7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.

8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, abscent minded & spacey grief can make you.

9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.

10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.

11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.

12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.

13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.

14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.

15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.

Why?

Joseph Smith said:
"I have meditated upon the subject, and asked the question, why is it that infants, innocent children, are taken away from us, especially those that seem to be the most intelligent and interesting. the strongest reasons that present themselves to my mind are these.....The Lord takes many away, even in infancy that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again....The only difference between the old and the young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory then the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Not withstanding all this glory we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope."

Orson F. Whitney said:
"No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God...and it is through sorrow and suffering , toil and tribulation, that we gain the education that we came here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father and mother in heaven. "

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