No Empty Chairs: Christmas Card

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Christmas Card

Sorry, kind of blurry and not straight...it's a picture of a picture.

Here is our Christmas card this year. We wanted to wish everyone out there a Merry Christmas from our family. We are so grateful this year for the amazing people in our life. We feel so blessed to have such great support from so many great people like you.

Again this year we are overwhelmed with gratitude for our Savior and the gifts he has given us. Especially, the resurrection and eternal life. We are so grateful for that knowledge and look forward to that day when Wyatt is in our arms again. Merry Christmas!

8 comments:

Marc and Megan said...: I love your Christmas card this year! It was such a nice surprise to get it in the mail the other day. I've never sent out Christmas cards... but maybe that's more because it always seemed kind of depressing to send out cards year after year of just the two of us. I guess we'll see if that changes next year! (Maybe the truth is that I'm just lazy!)

On a different note, I just wanted to thank you again for the ornaments you sent us last year... they are so perfect and I'm so grateful for the amazing friend you've been to me. Love ya lots!!; December 13, 2009 at 11:41 PM
Molly Bice-Jackson said...: Love your card! Thank you.

Have you purchased Wyatt's headstone yet?; December 14, 2009 at 9:24 AM
Natalie said...: What a cute christmas card! I hope you guys have a happy Christmas too. I also love the Celestial butterfly. Beautiful! Wish we could see you guys for Christmas!; December 14, 2009 at 9:43 AM
Gedge's said...: Love the pictures and the Christmas card. So sweet. Love the butterflies and that you included Angel Wyatt. So special.. I wish you and your family a happy healthy holiday season and hope 2010 brings you peace joy and love.. :); December 15, 2009 at 8:33 AM
Eldredge Family said...: Thank you for posting comments on Sages little blog! It literally brighten up my day! It is so nice to be making a friend with someone who has lost an infant son, has my same faith and understands how hard this is sometimes. I think your Christmas cards are priceless. You get so many in the mail with Santa Claus on them or the our life is perfect story's. I think your card shows the true meaning of what Christmas is all about. I love his butterfly ornament! I love his tree! I think it is really awesome. I hope you have a Spirit filled Christmas this year. Love your Sister,
Crystal; December 15, 2009 at 3:45 PM
Anonymous said...: Andrea,
What a beautiful tribute to your family and the gospel of Jesus Christ. I sure love you and appreciate your friendship and testimony. You are a wonderful mother and I can feel the Spirit in your writing!
Much love,
Holly Reynolds; December 17, 2009 at 3:41 PM
Jill said...: Love it. I love you guys. Merry Merry Christmas if we don't see you! Thinking of you always!; December 21, 2009 at 9:09 AM
Anonymous said...: I love your Christmas card. It is perfect. This is my first post I have stalked you for sometime, hope you don't mind.; December 21, 2009 at 10:38 PM

Wyatt

Wyatt had a little cold the weekend before he passed away. We took him into the Dr's thinking he might have RSV at the worst. The Dr. admitted him to the hospital and they took a chest x-ray. That's when we found out he had an enlarged heart caused by a virus. There was no indication before this that he had any problems. He was healthy and happy. He needed to be life flighted to Primary Children's Hospital. When they put the breathing tube in, Wyatt went into cardiac arrest. The CPR caused brain damage. He never woke up after that. They were able to stabalize him enough to make it to primary childrens. We had to take him off life support 3 days later. He left this earth peacefully in the arms of his parents. We know we will have our little boy again someday. What a glorious day that will be!

"Parents who have surrendered the sweetest and smallest flowers from the family's garden need to remember our Heavenly Father. He has promised a special reward to those who now suffer in silence, who spend long days and longer nights through their trying times of bereavement. Our Creator has promised glory. He said, "For after much tribulation come the blessings. Wherefore the day cometh that ye shall be crowned with much glory; the hour is not yet, but nigh at hand." (D&C 58:4) That promised glory includes the blessing of reunion with each child who has left the family circle to help surviving members of the family to draw nearer to God. Those children still live and are a heritage to the Lord."
Russell M. Nelson

President John Taylor once said: "that the best explanation he could offer why so many little children among the Saints were called away, notwithstanding the great faith and power of the priesthood exercised to keep them here, was that they were bright and noble spirits who held important positions in the kingdom of God in the spirit world, from which they could not long be spared., They were given brief furloughs, long enough to come to earth, take upon themselves bodies of flesh and bone that they might be prepared for a resurrection to a kingdom of glory; and after a short experience in mortality were called back to resume important labors in a higher sphere."

Joseph F. Smith said:
"Joseph Smith taught the doctrine that the infant child that was laid away in death would come up in the resurrection as a child; and pointing to the mother of a lifeless child, he said to her: ' You will have the joy, the pleasure, and satisfaction of nurturing this child, after its resurrection, until it reaches the full stature of its spirit.' There is restitution, there is growth, there is development, after the resurrection from death. I love this truth. It speaks volume of happiness, of joy and gratitude to my soul. Thank the Lord he has revealed these principles to us."

Michelle's list(Angel James' mom)

When Someone you Love is Bereaved

I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.

1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.

2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.

3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.

4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.

5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."

6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.

7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.

8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, abscent minded & spacey grief can make you.

9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.

10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.

11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.

12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.

13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.

14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.

15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.

Why?

Joseph Smith said:
"I have meditated upon the subject, and asked the question, why is it that infants, innocent children, are taken away from us, especially those that seem to be the most intelligent and interesting. the strongest reasons that present themselves to my mind are these.....The Lord takes many away, even in infancy that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again....The only difference between the old and the young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory then the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Not withstanding all this glory we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope."

Orson F. Whitney said:
"No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be called the children of God...and it is through sorrow and suffering , toil and tribulation, that we gain the education that we came here to acquire and which will make us more like our Father and mother in heaven. "

Sunday, December 13, 2009

Christmas Card

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