No Empty Chairs: Music

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Music

I can't even express how grateful I have been for music the past 2 months. I've always enjoy music but now there is so much more meaning in it for me. I have found great comfort from so many songs. Many of the Hymns have comforted me and given me added peace and strength. One of my favorites is " I know that my Redeemer lives." It has always been a favorite but now it means so much more...He lives to wipe away my tears... He lives to comfort me when faint..... He lives to hear my souls complaint....He lives and loves me to the end...He lives to calm my troubled heart.... He lives to bless in time of need...He lives and I shall conquer death....He lives my mansion to prepare....He lives to bring me safely there....HE LIVES!!!! How grateful I am for my Savior I know he lives.
Each morning Hay and I try to go walking and I will listen to my i-pod shuffle. Yesterday, I put my i-pod on random and just hoped something would come up that would comfort me. Well, Josh Groben's song "To where you are" came on. It was another of those sweet tender mercies I receive each day. I walked and cried and listened. I've added that song to our blog.

6 comments:

Natalie said...: I'm glad you figured out how to put the music on your blog. I'm so glad you recognize the comfort the Lord is giving you. Thank you again for your post.; May 14, 2008 at 2:51 PM
Jill said...: I love that song! Wow Andrea! I'm so glad you recognize those small (even if they seem quick) blessings of comfort. That's why you are so amazing! To be able to recognize that is a gift I believe you were foreordained to have to help you through this hard, but very special trial. I'm so glad you have this blog so we can know how you're doing more regularly. I love you "Aunt Annie!"; May 14, 2008 at 5:36 PM
drans007 said...: I haven't noticed how gentle and fitting the words are to I Know my redeemer lives. Another very inspiring LDS artist is Cherie Call. All her CD's are at the library, or on iTunes. Thanks again for sharing and next time Haley isn't awake yet, we're pretty flexible to go later, if you want.; May 14, 2008 at 8:03 PM
Eileen said...: Robyn gave me your link. I hope that's OK that I read your tender words. Thanks for sharing. I hope I never have to learn these hard things your way, but your words are very helpful to me. Much love and hugs from the Workman's.; May 14, 2008 at 8:12 PM
Lauryn Pearl said...: Andrea I love you so much. And I'm so grateful that you put together this blog so i can keep in touch easier. :) I love your family so much! You guys really have taught me so much and you continue to do so... hope to see you guys soon!; May 15, 2008 at 10:00 AM
Vance in the Knight! said...: Andrala, im so glad your doing this blog!!! so far, it is amazing!! i think that blogs are a genius thing because you get to keep up with what is going on with loved ones who are away from you.
i just want to thank you for your strength!! through this whole thing you have been so strong. i've gotten to see your amazing testimony in action and mine has grown a TON from it. i learn so so much from you and reading your blog is just helping me learn even more!! i've only come on a few times and whenever i read one of your entries, i forget about all the crazy things that i worry about and take time to appreciate the gospel, your wonderful family, and family in general. Its so amazing how you appreciate the little things like butterflys and music and take meaning from them!! Butterflys are my new favorite animals! i'm learning to try to enjoy the small things of life as much as you do!! your blog helps me to slow down and think logically....which i need in my wierd teenage life!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! i can't even tell you how much i have learned and come to appreciate. i've found that i value my cousins more and want to make more memories, and take pictures and stuff. i loved holding wyatt and now i regret turning down pictures whith him. i love your family so much and i wish that we could see more of you guys!! your kids are amazing and you so are you and derek!! me and jill were just talking about how lucky we are to have an aunt like you who is so strong and is able to take this whole experience and teach us all about the gospel, stay positive, and still be a great mom. i love you so much and thanks again!!! keep up the blog its great!!; May 15, 2008 at 1:20 PM

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Wyatt

Wyatt had a little cold the weekend before he passed away. We took him into the Dr's thinking he might have RSV at the worst. The Dr. admitted him to the hospital and they took a chest x-ray. That's when we found out he had an enlarged heart caused by a virus. There was no indication before this that he had any problems. He was healthy and happy. He needed to be life flighted to Primary Children's Hospital. When they put the breathing tube in, Wyatt went into cardiac arrest. The CPR caused brain damage. He never woke up after that. They were able to stabalize him enough to make it to primary childrens. We had to take him off life support 3 days later. He left this earth peacefully in the arms of his parents. We know we will have our little boy again someday. What a glorious day that will be!

Michelle's list(Angel James' mom)

When Someone you Love is Bereaved

I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.

1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.

2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.

3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.

4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.

5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."

6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.

7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.

8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, abscent minded & spacey grief can make you.

9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.

10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.

11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.

12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.

13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.

14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.

15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.

Why?

Joseph Smith said:
"I have meditated upon the subject, and asked the question, why is it that infants, innocent children, are taken away from us, especially those that seem to be the most intelligent and interesting. the strongest reasons that present themselves to my mind are these.....The Lord takes many away, even in infancy that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again....The only difference between the old and the young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory then the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Not withstanding all this glory we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope."

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