80%

There is a statistic that is quite alarming to me. 80% of couples get a divorce when they have lost a child. I know Derek and I won't be one of those. We are an eternal family and we have way to much at risk--we have our Wyatt waiting in the highest degree of the celestial kingdom for us. With that said I also see how important it is for us to build our marriage and make sure it's number one when a crisis like this happens. I'm grateful that our marriage was strong before Wyatt died and that it was a priority then because I can see how it could tear you apart if it wasn't. I'm glad it has done the opposite for us and has made us stronger and more understanding of one another. I have the greatest husband! He is so good to me and so patient with my grief. His grief has been so different than mine and at times it's been hard not to have him feel the same as I am feeling. I'm learning more and more how different we are but what a blessing that is. He has been able to pick up and move forward to provide for our family. If he grieved like me--well, we would probably be living in the streets right now. I'm not saying by any means our marriage is perfect--it's far from that but having Wyatt die has really shown us that we can get through anything..TOGETHER.
We had some frequent flier miles we needed to use or lose so we are going to Maui tomorrow. I haven't told very many people about it maybe because I'm feeling a little guilty that I'm not extremely excited. Don't get me wrong--I'm excited but probably not as excited as I would have been lets say ...7 months ago. So we are going to spend a week together building our relationship and making sure it survives through the storm we are going through right now. Thank you to Derek's parents for coming and spending a week with our kids and thanks to my parents for helping us out on our accommodations. Until later...Aloha!