No Empty Chairs: Happy Birthday Emily!

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Happy Birthday Emily!

Happy Birthday to our sweet 11 year old. Seriously, can't believe it. I remember that wonderful day when she was born. One of the greatest days of my life. When my heart burst with joy. I always wanted a girl to dress up and enjoy girl stuff with. I got my wish...twice. So glad she is "all" girl and loves to shop and do girl stuff with me. Emily is such a sweet heart and I feel so beyond lucky she is my daughter. Happy birthday day Em!

I try to find a little something from Wyatt each year...this year a pair of butterfly earrings.

Breakfast cake

Presents

Her birthday and Christmas present...Macie mae. :)

I made this birthday banner last week. I have always decorated the fireplace for birthdays. This year I wanted to do something that would simply things. Make it a little easier so I made this birthday banner out of fabric. I found the pattern on the internet. I added the butterfly to remind us that Wyatt is always close by especially on special events like birthdays.

Stylin' with her new hat a friend gave her.

This year instead of making a birthday cake she wanted to go "25th and main" for their DELICIOUS cupcakes. We brought along a candle and sang to her. She was embarrassed.

Checking to make sure this wasn't prince charming...it wasn't. :)

I think all in all she had a great day. I checked her out of school and took her to lunch and then shopping afterwards. We then came home and I made her favorite dinner. Then we went and had cupcakes and came home to watch a movie. We love this girl! So grateful she is a part of our family.

3 comments:

Lisa said...: Happy Birthday (belated) Emily! I think the dog is much better than fingernails this year!; September 10, 2010 at 12:09 AM
drans007 said...: Sounds like every birthday is special in your family! We loved the cupcakes at 25th and Main too! We miss a lot about Ivins and St. George, but we are glad we went where life took us. What an adventure.; September 13, 2010 at 11:24 PM
Robyn said...: You are the funnest mom ever. You always make birthdays so special! I've been wanting to make a birthday banner...I love yours! It is darling! Hope you are doing well and that September is easy on you!; September 15, 2010 at 4:51 PM

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Wyatt had a little cold the weekend before he passed away. We took him into the Dr's thinking he might have RSV at the worst. The Dr. admitted him to the hospital and they took a chest x-ray. That's when we found out he had an enlarged heart caused by a virus. There was no indication before this that he had any problems. He was healthy and happy. He needed to be life flighted to Primary Children's Hospital. When they put the breathing tube in, Wyatt went into cardiac arrest. The CPR caused brain damage. He never woke up after that. They were able to stabalize him enough to make it to primary childrens. We had to take him off life support 3 days later. He left this earth peacefully in the arms of his parents. We know we will have our little boy again someday. What a glorious day that will be!

Michelle's list(Angel James' mom)

When Someone you Love is Bereaved

I know a lot of people just "don't know what to say/do" so they don't do anything. Not doing anything is the wrong answer. Hopefully this list can help you help the ones you love in their journey of Grief.

1. First and foremost TALK about the loved one who's passed. Even if it uncomfortable at first, it will become easier.

2. If you didn't know the person at all or very well, ask to hear about them and learn of them through stories.

3. Don't ever put a time line on someone's grief.

4. Saying things like, "They are in a better place." Really isn't comforting. It makes the bereaved feel like the place they had with them wasn't good.

5. If you don't know what to say, just say, "I'm So sorry you have to go through this."

6. If the person needs to analyze the circumstances surrounding the death, let them just talk and rehash anything as many times as they need to.

7. Don't assume they are ever "better." It never gets better and will be a part of them for the rest of their lives.

8. Don't underestimate how frazzled, abscent minded & spacey grief can make you.

9. Pamper them if you have means. Retail Therapy worked great for me! So did pedicures and getting my hair done, I felt awful on the inside, at least I could try to feel good about me on the outside.

10. Love notes. Emails. Thinking of You cards. Thinking of the bereaved person cards.

11. Do not, I stress Do not get offended if your loved one doesn't answer his/her phone or return your calls. Don't assume that they don't appreciate your effort. It's just that someone bereaved doesn't want to put on a "happy voice." and burden everyone with their grief.

12. Most bereaved people will not offer information on how they are doing unless they truly feel like you want to know.

13. Validate.Validate.Validate. Please whatever you do, don't compare your loved ones loss to someone elses' "harder loss". Every loss is hard. Comparing makes the person feel like they shouldn't struggle because it could be worse.

14. The comment "but aren't you grateful you know you see them again" isn't comforting. It is not a fix all. It is comforting, but it doesn't take the pain out of not having them now.

15. Just make sure they know you love them. Be a shoulder to cry on.

Why?

Joseph Smith said:
"I have meditated upon the subject, and asked the question, why is it that infants, innocent children, are taken away from us, especially those that seem to be the most intelligent and interesting. the strongest reasons that present themselves to my mind are these.....The Lord takes many away, even in infancy that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again....The only difference between the old and the young dying is, one lives longer in heaven and eternal light and glory then the other, and is freed a little sooner from this miserable, wicked world. Not withstanding all this glory we for a moment lose sight of it, and mourn the loss, but we do not mourn as those without hope."

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Happy Birthday Emily!

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